Losing a beloved pet
Grief & Loss comes in many forms. Throughout our lives we have many experiences that cause us deep sadness.
The obvious one is of course the loss of family members. However it's good for us to remember that the loss of health, retrenchment from a job, divorce, friendships..... to name a few, are all periods in our lives when we need to go easy on ourselves and to give ourselves time to move through our grief.
I have to say that one of the deepest grief periods in my life was when I had to put down my beloved Mandy after 16 years of very loyal and loving companionship.
I managed to hold it together all day at work, then on the drive home I would start thinking about her and have tears running down my cheeks all the way home. Incredibly this went on for 3 months!
It took me ages before I could do what I really wanted to do and put pen to paper and write her a letter thanking her for all she meant to our family. Switching over from sadness to gratitude was the only way I seemed to be able to get through.
Today I came across this poem and it reminded me of the difficult time we go through when we have to say goodbye to our pet friends. I like to think that my Mandy is always around me in Spirit just like this doggie. x
I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said " it's me."
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
In the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning
and say "good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.
Author ~ unknown